Well obviously if you want a man, and you prefer a loyal highly sentimental man who won't drop his current partners for someone 125% better, you'd have to take him away from some other woman currently in possession of him! Attractive men aren't going to be just lying around with nobody having claimed them!
And wouldn't making compromises indicate that your starting positions were not already perfect? Either that, or indicate weakness and being willing to move away from perfection.