"Ramona, you earlier said that there were forms of sadness and drama that you preferred to other forms. Does that mean you prefer them to not any sadness or drama at all? Can you say more about the circumstances under which you'd prefer your relationships to be bad instead of good?"
If one partner has been pessimizing while the other was optimizing, that sounds like an obvious relationship disaster in the making unless their utility functions are inverted relative to each other. Or possibly she was just trolling, but that sounded more like 'joke over partial truth' than 'joke over total falsehood'.