So far this sounds like the sort of problem that ought to fold as soon as anyone makes a serious effort about it for fifteen minutes, but obviously these people have long since thought of that and determined that their best course of action was to employ a therapist anyways!  "Well, I'm sure not going to claim to understand what any of that's about, on as little information as I have!  If I asked literally all of my questions I'd waste a huge amount of your valuable time, so I won't ask you what your home dimensions are like, or who you are as people, or what matters to you in life.  Instead, I'll ask what the two of you are getting out of each other; or if that's not the historical cause of your relationship, what brought you together instead of mutual gains from relating relative to your next-best alternatives in the mate market?"

So far this sounds like the sort of problem that ought to fold as soon as anyone makes a serious effort about it for fifteen minutes, but obviously these people have long since thought of that and determined that their best course of action was to employ a therapist anyways!  "Well, I'm sure not going to claim to understand what any of that's about, on as little information as I have!  If I asked literally all of my questions I'd waste a huge amount of your valuable time, so I won't ask you what your home dimensions are like, or who you are as people, or what matters to you in life.  Instead, I'll ask what the two of you are getting out of each other?  Or if that's not the historical cause of your relationship, what brought you together as a matter of historical causality, instead of mutual gains from relating relative to your next-best alternatives for mating?"