Dear Nidalian:
I can only imagine how confusing Cheliax must be to you! There really isn't much I can do in one letter to help you. Mostly, I counsel patience. You're a special person here, and if you go on looking visibly like you might be a useful possession to somebody, someone will eventually put in the work required to take control of you, reshape you, explain things to you, find a place for you in Cheliax and hammer you into it.
But if I were to try to guess what might lie at the core of your confusion:
In Cheliax, everybody is hurting others or being hurt themselves for reasons. Even when it seems like somebody is just hurting you for no reason at all, they're probably deriving sexual satisfaction from it, or the pride of crushing you down.
Understanding the reasons why people hurt one another will be the key to your making sense of Cheliax. And that starts with the idea that people can have reasons for hurting each other at all; and that your first guess at the reason isn't always correct, nor will people tell you the reasons honestly if you ask them.