Dear Studious,

I've absolutely been there.  Well, I am there, really.  Wasn't always, but sex became boring after a while.

If you can manage to stand kissing people, it works surprisingly well to provide an additional victim for the relationship and kiss your partner while the victim you provided gets used by them for pleasure, in which case they're often very able to credit that pleasure to you as its proper source.  You do need to be there and doing the kissing.

Consider also that if sex is boring but not aversive, you might very well start to find it interesting, providing that somebody else is having a sufficiently interesting reaction to it as part of larger events, or that you're carrying out the sex as part of some larger plan that you enjoy.  That's worked for me too.

If neither of those work for you, I recommend looking for somebody who can respond appropriately and romantically to being set on fire, even if you don't have sex with them.  To be clear - this should go without saying, but I've had problems with bizarre misinterpretations of my advice in the past - I don't mean somebody who consents to you setting them on fire and not having sex with them, I mean somebody who responds romantically to that.  There's a huge difference!

Once you're a high-enough level wizard to have access to the trio of Detect Thoughts, Detect Desires, and Detect Anxieties, you may find that you are able to derive some shadow of sexual enjoyment from experiencing the intense emotions of other people.

Dear Studious,

I've absolutely been there.  Well, I am there, really.  Wasn't always, but sex became boring after a while.

If you can manage to stand kissing people, it works surprisingly well to provide an additional victim for the relationship and kiss your partner while the victim you provided gets used by them for pleasure, in which case they're often very able to credit that pleasure to you as its proper source.  You do need to be there and doing the kissing.

Consider also that if sex is boring but not aversive, you might very well start to find it interesting, providing that somebody else is having a sufficiently interesting reaction to it as part of larger events, or that you're carrying out the sex as part of some larger plan that you enjoy.  That's worked for me too.

If neither of those work for you, I recommend looking for somebody who can respond appropriately and romantically to being set on fire, even if you don't have sex with them.  To be clear - this should go without saying, but I've had problems with bizarre misinterpretations of my advice in the past - I don't mean somebody who consents to you setting them on fire and not having sex with them, I mean somebody who responds romantically to that.  There's a huge difference!

Once you're a high-enough level wizard to have access to the trio of Detect Thoughts, Detect Desires, and Detect Anxieties, and deploy them at sufficient power, you may find that you are able to derive some shadow of sexual enjoyment from experiencing the intense emotions of other people.

Dear Studious,

I've absolutely been there.  Well, I am there, really.  Wasn't always, but sex became boring after a while.

If you can manage to stand kissing people, it works surprisingly well to provide an additional victim for the relationship and kiss your partner while the victim you provided gets used by them for pleasure, in which case they're often able to credit that pleasure to you as its proper source.  You do need to be there and doing the kissing.

Consider also that if sex is boring but not aversive, you might very well start to find it interesting, providing that somebody else is having a sufficiently interesting reaction to it as part of larger events, or that you're carrying out the sex as part of some larger plan that you enjoy.  That's worked for me too.

If neither of those work for you, I recommend looking for somebody who can respond appropriately and romantically to being set on fire, even if you don't have sex with them.  To be clear - this should go without saying, but I've had problems with bizarre misinterpretations of my advice in the past - I don't mean somebody who consents to you setting them on fire and not having sex with them, I mean somebody who responds romantically to that.  There's a huge difference!

Once you're a high-enough level wizard to have access to the trio of Detect Thoughts, Detect Desires, and Detect Anxieties, and deploy them at sufficient power, you may find that you are able to derive some shadow of sexual enjoyment from experiencing the intense emotions of other people.

Dear Studious,

I've absolutely been there.  Well, I am there, really.  Wasn't always, but sex became boring after a while.

If you can manage to stand kissing people, it works surprisingly well to provide an additional victim for the relationship and kiss your partner while the victim you provided gets used by them for pleasure, in which case they're often able to credit that pleasure to you as its proper source.  You do need to be there and doing the kissing.

Consider also that if sex is boring but not aversive, you might very well start to find it interesting, providing that somebody else is having a sufficiently interesting reaction to it as part of larger events, or that you're carrying out the sex as part of some larger plan that you enjoy.  That's worked for me too.

If neither of those work for you, I recommend looking for somebody who can respond appropriately to being set on fire, even if you don't have sex with them.  To be clear - this should go without saying, but I've had problems with bizarre misinterpretations of my advice in the past - I don't mean somebody who consents to you setting them on fire and not having sex with them, I mean somebody who responds romantically to that.  There's a huge difference!

Once you're a high-enough level wizard to have access to the trio of Detect Thoughts, Detect Desires, and Detect Anxieties, and deploy them at sufficient power, you may find that you are able to derive some shadow of sexual enjoyment from experiencing the intense emotions of other people.