some dath ilani are so selfish, even, that they will not at first try to be perfectly altruistic about large numbers of people in trouble far away from themselves, that they'll care much more about the people who are right in front of them, the friends they know, the people they love
but
it doesn't really make them all that unusually selfish by the standards of anywhere else, even if, at first, they think that's who they're supposed to be