Hugs! "It's still so weird to think that your military people and your Governance people are the same people, like, failure-of-professional-specialization much?"
"I... wish I didn't have to say this, but I have more tricky sexuality self-report questions to ask you, even though it sounds like this is not at all a great time for that. There's a time-sensitive question I'm considering, of the type 'window of opportunity to do a nice thing' rather than disaster-prevention type. Not so time sensitive we couldn't cuddle for a few minutes for resuming."