"I believe the central concept is that we lie that 'Governance' would be unhappy but go along with it, but tell the truth that the actual power this gives him is important to your sexuality.  'Governance' is not telling him this to encourage him, of course, but because it's an important fact for somebody like him to know about somebody like you.  He should not suggest that you have any power to restrain him from doing whatever he wants, because in fact you don't have that power and that fact is very important to you."

"I believe the central concept is that we lie that 'Governance' would be unhappy and then go along with it, but tell the truth that the actual power this gives him is important to your sexuality.  'Governance' is not telling him this to encourage him, of course, but because it's an important fact for somebody like him to know about somebody like you.  He should not suggest that you have any power to restrain him from doing whatever he wants, because in fact you don't have that power and that fact is very important to you."