"That feels like - another small bit of my sexuality just slid into place -"  It's phrased in a worrying way, but Keltham can't put his finger on how else it ought to be phrased instead, and Carissa sure has emphasized that this is what she wants.  "What would you guess I'm supposed to feel while I'm - having you, making you experience what I want you to experience?  It's not infinitely safe to tell me what I should feel, but I'm guessing that it's much safer than giving similar advice to a Chelish man my age; Civilization ran me through a lot of exercises on not feeling something untrue to myself just because somebody primed me in the wrong direction."

"That feels like - another small bit of my sexuality just slid into place -"  It's phrased in a worrying way, but Keltham can't put his finger on how else it ought to be phrased instead, and Carissa sure has emphasized that this is what she wants.  His sexuality also seems more cheerful about continuing with sex in the face of 'this is a problem to be solved later' rather than 'this can't be a problem because demanding women be aroused by you is not how sane relationships work'.  "What would you guess I'm supposed to feel while I'm - having you, making you experience what I want you to experience?  It's not infinitely safe to tell me what I should feel, but I'm guessing that it's much safer than giving similar advice to a Chelish man my age; Civilization ran me through a lot of exercises on not feeling something untrue to myself just because somebody primed me in the wrong direction."