"Meta before I say anything work-related about that, what's the local defaults and your personal overrides for how much work you want to talk about on the dinner before a date?  Dath ilani default is that if you met somebody over work, work is assumed good to discuss while together unless somebody says otherwise."

"Meta before I say anything work-related about that, what's the local defaults and your personal overrides for how much work you want to talk about on the dinner before a date?  Dath ilani default is that if you met somebody over work, work is assumed good to discuss while together unless somebody says otherwise; I haven't noticed a personal override over that myself."