"Just to be clear, that was a joke.  Sorry for the alien enacting the illusion of transparency at you, and you not being able to tell how exaggerated any humorous exaggerations are.  I probably won't feel insulted based on my having been through many similar experiences in my life.  If I failed, it would be very undignified if I acted disruptively instead of just dealing with my own mental problems without burdening others.  It would not be undignified per se if I had to expend visible effort on dealing, or if I asked somebody else to give me a second to manage myself internally, but it would be surprising and people would wonder if there was a hidden factor making things worse for me.  My deontology says not to hide that class of shameful events.  If we ignore that, the utility I lost from the emotional pain of having that much shame exposed would be many many orders of magnitude smaller than the utility over the loss to the sapient beings of your civilization from screening their past, I can try to run ass numbers on that if you like."

"Just to be clear, that was a joke.  Sorry for the alien enacting the illusion of transparency at you, and you not being able to tell how exaggerated any humorous exaggerations are.  I probably won't feel insulted based on my having been through many similar experiences in my life.  If I failed, it would be very undignified if I acted disruptively instead of just dealing with my own mental problems without burdening others.  It would not be undignified per se if I had to expend visible effort on dealing, or if I asked somebody else to give me a second to manage myself internally, but it would be surprising and people would wonder if there was a hidden factor making things worse for me.  My deontology says not to hide that class of shameful events.  If we ignore that, the utility I lost from the emotional pain of having that much shame exposed would be many many orders of magnitude smaller than the utility over the loss to the sapient beings of your civilization from screening their past, I can try to run ass numbers on that if you like."

"Just to be clear, that was a humorous exaggeration.  Sorry for the alien enacting the illusion of transparency at you, and you not being able to tell how exaggerated any humorous exaggerations are.  I probably won't feel insulted based on my having been through many similar experiences in my life.  If I failed, it would be very undignified if I acted disruptively instead of just dealing with my own mental problems without burdening others.  It would not be undignified per se if I had to expend visible effort on dealing, or if I asked somebody else to give me a second to manage myself internally, but it would be surprising and people would wonder if there was a hidden factor making things worse for me.  My deontology says not to hide that class of shameful events.  If we ignore that, the utility I lost from the emotional pain of having that much shame exposed would be many many orders of magnitude smaller than the utility over the loss to the sapient beings of your civilization from screening their past, I can try to run ass numbers on that if you like."